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Mr. . . .
Greeting and Blessing:
This is to acknowledge receipt of your letter with reference to the proposed shidduch. On the basis of your description of the relationship and the character of the young lady, I believe that the way to clarify your position is also the simplest way, namely, to have a heart-to-heart talk about the standards of Yiddishkeit which you expect to be the basis of your family and everyday life; including, particularly, the strict observance of the laws and regulations of taharat hamishpachah . . .
In view of the fundamental importance of clarifying this situation, and given the open-mindedness that is characteristic of a college environment - with which the young lady is familiar - it should not be a problem to discuss this important subject frankly and honestly.
With blessing,
Notes and sources
Published: The Letter and the Spirit, Vol 1 (Nissan Mindel Publications, 1998), 362.
Note: Letters printed in "The Letter and the Spirit" are from the Archives of Rabbi Nissan Mindel A"H, the Rebbe's personal secretary entrusted with writing up the Rebbe's orally dictated responses. The “Nissan Mindel Archives” are comprised of secretarial copies, including first drafts, and may have subsequently been published with editorial changes. Therefore the letters as they appear in the book may not be the final signed version.