By the Grace of G-d 20th of Adar, 5734 Brooklyn, N.Y.
Mrs. . . .
Blessing and Greeting:
I was very gratified to receive your regards through Mrs. . . . who informed me about your participation in the first European Convention of Chabad Women in London and also conveyed your favorable impression. Above all, I was very pleased to hear that you are resolved to translate these impressions into actual deeds in your community in Gibraltar, to strengthen Torah and Yiddishkeit in your community, particularly in the area of Taharas Ha’mishpocho.
In view of the above, it is surely unnecessary for me to elaborate to you on the importance of such activity to strengthen the observance of the mitzvos in general and of Taharas Ha’mishpocho in particular.
However, with regard to the latter, there are unfortunately many who do not appreciate the importance of the observance of the laws and regulations of Taharas Ha’mishpocho, and even those who do appreciate it often are reluctant to speak about it out of a sense of misplaced modesty, etc. This is why this particular area must be emphasized nowadays all the more, although all the mitzvos are equally important and binding and we are not really supposed to weigh the importance of one mitzvah against that of another, since all of them represent the Will of G-d.
Nevertheless, the Torah itself tells us that every mitzvah has its particular significance and “segulo,” and in the case of Taharas Ha’mishpocho, it has the distinction of having a far-reaching effect not only on the husband and wife, but also on their children and children’s children, and so on. In other words, when this mitzvah is properly observed, it has a bearing on all posterity. And from the positive side of it, one can deduce the negative effects of failing to observe it, G-d forbid.
Thus it is also quite clear that this is not a matter which can be brushed aside as a personal affair of the two people immediately concerned, for it vitally affects the future of our Jewish children, in addition to the fact that all Jews are like one family and are responsible for one another.
Bearing all the above in mind, it becomes self-evident that even if the observance of the laws and regulations of Taharas Ha’mishpocho is sometimes connected with a certain inconvenience, this can surely be no factor, in view of the vital importance and benefits that this mitzvah has for children and all future generations, as mentioned above.
We are now in the auspicious month of Adar which is a mazeldik month for all Jews, especially for Jewish women in view of a Jewish woman’s role in the miracle of Purim, as emphasized also by the fact that the Megilla is called not after Mordechai, nor after Mordechai and Esther jointly, but solely after Esther — Megillas Esther. May the inspiration of Purim which we just celebrated, be with you and yours throughout the year and may you carry out the above with joy and gladness of heart.
With blessing,
Notes and sources
Published: The Letter and the Spirit, Vol 5 (Nissan Mindel Publications, 2019), 282; The Letter and the Spirit, Vol 6 (Nissan Mindel Publications, 2023), pp. 134-135.
Note: Letters printed in "The Letters and the Spirit" are from the Archives of Rabbi Nissan Mindel A"H, the Rebbe's personal secretary entrusted with writing up the Rebbe's orally dictated responses. The “Nissan Mindel Archives” are comprised of secretarial copies, including first drafts, and may have subsequently been published with editorial changes. Therefore the letters as they appear in the book may not be the final signed version.
Source & Link: The Letter & The Spirit 5, pg. 282: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1aMm8Oe7arT66hxSVgwrPSCO_EOyO2MQJ/view?usp=sharing Alternative Source: LAS 6