By the Grace of G-d 20th Shevat, 5722 Brooklyn, N.Y.

Blessing and Greeting:

I received your recent two letters.

The best way to cope with the problem is to show to those you mention in your letter that since you have developed a feeling for Lubavitch, it has had a beneficial influence on you in observing the Mitzvot with more Hiddur and in a greater measure of devotion and diligence in your studies and in your daily conduct in general. This is the best way to lessen the opposition and to turn their attitude in your favor.

Needless to say, the above should be reflected also in your reaction to the attitude of those persons whom the Torah obligates you to respect and honor, so that while you cannot accept their viewpoint in this matter, it should be expressed in a respectful way, in accordance with the Torah. This, together with the improvement in your whole way of life as above, will, I hope, bring about the desired results.

I would also like to advise you that you should avoid all discussions and debates on the merits or demerits of Lubavitch, and in any case it is not by discussion, but by example, that one can convince best — while in discussion it is often difficult to avoid a wrong word, etc.

Incidentally, it is already a matter of decades that the Nesiim of Lubavitch, my Father-in-law and his Father of saintly memory, have been on good terms with the Rabbeyim of Ger and when the present Gerer Rebbe’s brother and brother-in-law were here, as well as other close relatives, we have met in a most friendly atmosphere.

With blessing,

By (secretary)

P.S. I am sending this letter Special Delivery in case there is still a possibility to rectify the matter. At any rate, you ought to call her attention to her mistake of presuming to rule on a matter in a way directly contrary to Shulchan Aruch, particularly where another person is involved; all the more so that she is bent on attaining madregos.

I trust that you had an inspiring YomTov of Shavuos, especially in the sense expressed by my father-in-law of saintly memory — to receive the Torah with joy and inwardness.